tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10252206865177014522024-02-08T10:36:15.251+08:00Garden of ThoughtsCelinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.comBlogger188125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-59408089936240103322015-05-21T18:30:00.001+08:002015-05-22T11:29:42.948+08:00Suffering, mortality and above all, Grace<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Small Boy has a chesty cough that keeps him up at night. No adult in the household gets any sleep when he is up. He wanders over to our room, pats me awake for sips of water, wants to be held upright and disturbs our rest. It is only with much persuasion and patience that he goes back to his own bed to lie down.<br />
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Watching my child suffer, even for a small illness, brings the wish to exchange places with him. If only I can take away his illness and bring it onto me to alleviate his suffering. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I have had much practice in watching a loved one suffer. <br />
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Dad turned 70 in Feb this year. Neither my sisters nor I thought he would make this far, hence we threw a party for him, inviting his siblings for dinner at a Teochew restaurant to celebrate that "YES he made it". The litany of his illnesses are long: lung operation at age 48 to remove 2/3s of his smoke-blackened lungs, stroke at age 55 which paralysed the right side of his body, prostate cancer at age 62 followed by skin cancer a year after due to the radiotherapy. It is a sheer miracle he is alive.<br />
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I have a memory of my dad standing at the void deck of our apartment waiting for me to pick him up in the taxi. His back was stooped. His eyes were closed and his arms leaned on the wall for support. I saw an old man then, realised in that moment that he and my mother will not live forever. Yes I know that logically he will pass on one day, but the image stays with me.<br />
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Mom had a health scare at age 64. Stage 2 colon cancer. Lay fragile on the hospital bed after the doctors cut out 10cm of her colon. My dad held her hand when she came out of GA, just as she held his through his lung operation, his stroke, his radiotherapy. Mom had been the strong one...<br />
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The Hubs is all clear for 3 years after his eye operation way back in 2012. One day in May 2012, he finally disclosed to me that the floaters (debri in our eyes from broken blood vessels during birth) in his eyes were getting unusually more and more. That day, we were at the GP. 2 days later, we went to the eye specialist Dr Chua. Dr Chua used a machine to scan the Hubs' right eye, and found the floaters were actually blood clots trying to form as the tiny blood vessels had burst. The normal pressure in all 4 quarters of the right iris is 80. The lowest number registered by the machine on the Hubs' right eye was 220, with the highest being 480. Dr Chua recommended laser surgery the very next day to close the blood vessels, prevent further bleeding lest his vision is impaired. I went home in a daze that evening, and managed to arrange for the boys to be at my mother's the next morning while I took a taxi with the Hubs (did not trust myself to drive) to Mt Elizabeth Hospital the next day. The rest of the day passed in a blur. Thank God he is all well now.<br />
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I can bear my own suffering. I cannot bear it when my beloved suffers.<br />
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I am very glad that my God knows what it is like to watch the beloved suffer. For He sent His Son to save the world, did He not?<br />
There is Grace there, and Hope, and Faith. Grace freely given.<br />
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-48703633376499400332014-09-25T15:50:00.001+08:002014-09-25T15:50:27.269+08:00Intuition<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Intuition is nothing more than taking in data points, and seeing a pattern.<br />
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My intuition kicked in ~2 years ago. On a work telecon meeting with my teammates, I listened half-heartedly to the usual preamble of how are yous, and what has been the highlight/lowlight of the past fortnight, when suddenly my teammate mentioned that she was in hospital for a week. I messaged her almost immediately to ask how she was, and was she better. After she evaded giving me a straight answer after I asked what was her illness.... I said... "Did you have a miscarriage?"<br />
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She was surprised enough to start yes, and really how did I know?<br />
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The data points are (1) she is normally a bubbly, enthusiastic person (2) she sounded sad - yes it came through in her voice even though the telecon only had audio without video (3) I know she had been trying for a baby from a previous conversation. Putting all these separate pieces of information together, I deduced that she had been pregnant, and lost the baby. <br />
See, easy peasy.<br />
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This afternoon, I went to an alternative healer who is trained in the ancient Chinese art of bone therapy. He asked me to lie face down, felt along my spine, and said a couple of startling things about me, things that I never expected a total stranger to know about me....<br />
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Intuition? Tis his training in the healing arts that gave him these insights into me. My body really was laid out before him like a map. This spot was connected to my heart, this to my colon, this to my reproductive system. WOW.<br />
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I suppose it only seems wow to me, because I am not trained to see what he saw.<br />
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In the age of Google where every fact can be found with a search, the art of intuition is even more crucial for excelling in one's chosen field. A teacher leads you to the facts, education is seeing patterns when the data points are a mess to the untrained eye.</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-85879322038355638632014-04-06T07:20:00.002+08:002014-04-06T07:20:34.170+08:00Purple sky<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
This post was written mid Mar before my Melbourne 2-week self drive holiday. I have sorely neglected my blog... Cannot post in the office due to IE incompatibility with Blogger (and I think Corporate IT blocked blogger!) and little time to post at home after eating dinner, and putting the boys to sleep.<br />
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I had <span style="color: #222222; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">set my internal alarm clock to wake me at 630am. Half an hour before the boys were supposed to wake. To catch up on my alone time – reading newspapers, and reading Facebook feeds. I probably made a little too much noise opening my closet to take out my work clothes (even though I tried to move quietly). Medium Boy stirred. I tip-toed out to the kitchen to toast my bread, and make myself a cup of coffee. Medium Boy stumbled out sleepily, then flew to hug me at the waist. “What happened, dear?” I asked. “I missed you when I woke up, Mama…” he replied, rubbing his eyes. “Mama, I have an idea. Let’s cuddle and watch the sky.”</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">And so we did. As we huddled in the chilly morning under the blanket watching the sky turn from night to day, Medium Boy told me that his Ikea toy dog had a bad dream, of bad guys chasing him. I checked in on his dog, gave him and Dog a few kisses, and yes, I really wanted to read my own stuff. Hence I eased out of the bed, and told him I was really hungry, and I needed to eat. He looked at me with solemn eyes (same expression when he first opened his eyes at birth to look at me, my firstborn is a solemn one) and said ok, but come back soon.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">He came out to get me – again! – when I took a longer time than he wanted. This push and pull, is the weave and warp of my life now. I want to be with the children, and I want to be alone. When I share this with the Husband, he looks at me incredulously. Tell them to leave you alone when you want to be alone, he says. That easy? Yes it is that easy. And only a dad would think about that, a mom definitely </span><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">wouldn't.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Really? I do not know. I do know that I need to nourish myself. And nourishing myself was what I did this morning when I cuddled my son and watched night turn into day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">The sky is purple, he told me. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Yes my son, it is. You notice the purples and the oranges only when you look. Please continue to look even as you grow. I am proud that you turn to nature to start your day.</span></div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-84274007999573707312014-02-07T17:49:00.002+08:002014-02-07T17:49:13.358+08:00Where are the kids?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Hello everybody! I am back writing again on my blog. Came back from MY after the annual CNY trip back. The boys had FUN FUN FUN! Fireworks, poppers thrown onto the floor, firecrackers, topped off with a trip to bathe and frolic in the river on Tuesday.<br />
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My boys are active boys…. they run around, they tug my hand to show me stuff, most tree branches have to be inspected for any interesting insects that might come out…. bringing them outside means the world entertains them, not just me or the Husband.<br />
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Last evening at ~815pm, I walked with the 2 boys out to the library. Strangely enough, there were no kids playing at the playground downstairs or cycling/skating at the concrete court. Where are all the kids?<br />
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If I guess correctly, most children were doing homework at home, or coming back/going to enrichment classes on a Thu evening. It would be a strange day when my boys grow up and they too have their own routines. They are now old enough that I do not need to monitor them (for safety reasons) 24/7 and I have some space and time to do my own things… and young enough that they still tug my hand to show me their latest discovery, be it a new way to construct a fan (Medium Boy) or a new configuration of bowling pins / race tracks (Small Boy).<br />
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Life is good with these 2 little boys around.</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-53621107196806263192014-01-01T19:01:00.000+08:002014-01-01T19:01:14.302+08:00Look back at Nov and Dec<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I realise that it has been a good 2 months since I last blogged. The reason I started to blog is to capture the fleeting thoughts and make sense of them…. The days and months have passed me quickly by.<br />
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Aug was the announcement of the reorganisation at work. I start tomorrow with a new boss and new teammates. Hope the new setup is more beneficial for my personal growth journey!<br />
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Nov and Dec were trying months.<br />
15 Nov: start of school holidays. My ILs arrive with SIL's 1-and-a-half year old daughter N in tow. They bring lots of stuff over with a baby, some of which are still cluttering up my home today. I shall bring the playpen, diapers, baby bottle detergent, baby bottle brush and baby clothes back to my SIL when I return to MY for CNY.<br />
I receive news at work that my presence is necessary for a workshop on 28 Nov, 2 weeks before the event, when I had already taken leave to be with my family at Legoland.<br />
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16 Nov: Little N falls ill with a wheezing cough and runny nose.<br />
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18 Nov: I accompany N and ILs to the boys' PD, who as I blogged before in Feb, is worth her weight in gold. I accompany them to explain to the nurses bat little N as the PD normally does not take in new patients as her current patient load is full to bursting.<br />
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22 Nov: The Husband and I take a day off to celebrate my birthday. We drove to JB to shop for the boys' at-home clothes (RM5 for a tee! RM10 for shorts! cheap!) and lug groceries including milk powder back home.<br />
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24 Nov: SIL arrives with elder daughter G. G and Medium Boy promptly devise all sorts of games together. I am reminded anew why I agreed to the crowds descending on my 88 sq metre apartment in the first place…. to make memories with the boys' cousins! Hang onto that thought…… because…..<br />
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27 Nov: I retire to bed with a headache. Or rather, that was my original intention when I returned home. Medium Boy, Small Boy and G have child tickets to the Mickey Mouse magic show at MBS. The Husband bought just ONE adult ticket. The SIL decides to be the security guard cum bag concierge over the children. Seeing that I am home, the MIL decides to go out too, leaving me alone with the helper and N.<br />
N cries for one hour, 15mins before she falls asleep.<br />
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28 Nov: I wake up with headache still intact and sit through an intense workshop in Park Hotel, half my mind on work and networking, half my mind wishing I were with the boys at Legoland.<br />
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29 Nov: I take a bus to Legoland. Start off from SG at 9am. Waiting at the SG checkpoint - 45mins. Waiting at the MY checkpoint - 1h10mins. I arrive at Legoland at 1130am.<br />
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30 Nov: Return to SG, driving the females of the home (MIL, SIL, G and N, helper) home first. The boys (FIL, the Husband, Medium Boy, Small Boy) are off on an errand to retrieve the Groupon present that FIL bought online. Indicated the shipping address as one of the Husband's friends staying in JB. Friend was not at home when courier came. Courier refused to release the package to the Husband's friend, citing that his name is not the same as the one indicated on the package. Gee. What a whole lot of trouble over one online purchase.<br />
30 Nov was the Husband's 2nd attempt to pick up the package. 22 Nov was the first.<br />
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1 Dec: ILs plus 2 little girls depart SG.<br />
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9 Dec: Little India riot in SG. Helper's husband is fatally stabbed in Manila. While doing his job as a security guard. What an absolute waste.<br />
I complete my last ops note of 2013. Together with margin latest estimates that indicate we will fall short of target. Sigh.<br />
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10 Dec: Helper receives news. Her 12yo daughter sits silent in a corner of the morgue after identifying her father's body. Only speaks and cries when my helper calls home.<br />
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12 Dec: Helper flies home.<br />
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29 Dec: Helper returns.<br />
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1 Jan: I host New Year lunch for my parents and aunts today. It is a blessing to feast with family :)<br />
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As you can see, I have had 2 months of ups and downs. Above all, I am thankful for the Husband who made things easier for me when he could.<br />
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-82201072694871731272013-10-31T18:27:00.001+08:002013-10-31T18:27:58.239+08:00Poverty: the closed circle<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I dashed into the taxi to the school this morning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I wore an old and faded red t-shirt, half jeans with a tear
in the right knee and carried a ratty handbag.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>That is my grocery shopping uniform.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Yes I take an hour during a weekday morning to shop for groceries as I
detest weekend crowds, and I shop more efficiently without a 5yo and a 3yo in
tow.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Truth be told, I am better dressed
this morning than I normally would have been. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The Husband took a look at the (even more
faded) top I had chosen when I came out of the room, and reminded me that I had
better clothes than that to wear.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>-sulk-
My vanity was pricked enough that I went back to change into a slightly less
worn, slightly less faded top.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The call from school came when I was paying for
groceries.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Medium Boy had small ulcers
in his mouth, and he had just recovered from a fever from Tuesday night / Wednesday
morning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His teacher asked me to please
come and bring him for a checkup at the doctor’s to see if it was Hand Foot
Mouth Disease “HFMD”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hence the dash
into the taxi after sending my helper home with the groceries.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I caught a glimpse of the taxi driver looking askew at me when
I climbed into the taxi.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perspiring with
sweat stains – yes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Wallet falling apart
at the seams – yes. (I was clutching my wallet to see if I had enough cash on
hand when I finally managed to hail a taxi).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The kind of look that wondered “Does this passenger have enough to pay?”.
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I saw the look.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>THEN I opened my mouth and said in my best
Standard English “Boss, please take me to xxx.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I need to get my child from school.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>After that, we exchanged pleasantries… talked briefly about the weather,
how wet it has been in the afternoons this week.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The nurses at the PD had seen me in all states before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No raised eyebrows there or meaningful looks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Why do I share this little story?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because Perception is Reality.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From a local blogger’s website, I came across
this thought provoking <a href="http://tressiemc.com/2013/10/29/the-logic-of-stupid-poor-people/" target="_blank">entry </a>written by a black in the USA.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How her presentation of self matters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I reflected for a second… how many times have
I passed by such persons right in my neighbourhood… persons who are different,
are obviously poor (yes, poverty exists in SG!) and made snap judgements of
what they are wearing and how they speak.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>And how naïve I am in thinking that a person living in a 2-room HBD flat
cannot, and should not, buy and carry a branded handbag, or buy and wear Ferragamo
shoes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is a human need to belong, to
crack open the closed circles (closed to the poor) of the middle class.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That I have been so blind, I who have never
had to worry for food or shelter in my life, to judge the buying behavior of
another.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The blog entry has taught me to see the deeper reality of
poverty.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those who are born into it,
raised in it, worry over the next meal or the next night’s shelter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">growingupwithless.sg.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Poverty exists.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am
pondering what I can do to help just one child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Because that child could have been my Medium Boy or Small Boy.</span></div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-58728149716662261032013-09-19T23:59:00.003+08:002013-09-19T23:59:37.044+08:00Lean in<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I struggle with the concept of having it all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Fuzzily defined for the modern woman as
having (1) a personally fulfilling and financially rewarding career, (2) at
least one healthy socially well-adjusted child who is a genius in
art/music/math/whatever, preferably all of the above and (3) a stable
monogamous relationship with a partner who actively enables (1) and (2).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Now I do not know about you, dear reader, but
to do all of that, I would need to double… possibly triple… the waking hours of
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Along comes Sheryl Sandberg, COO and later CEO of Facebook,
successful corporate woman worth pots of money, mother to 2 children, and now
author of a book “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to lead”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="color: #0070c0;">From
Wikipedia:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><i><span lang="EN" style="color: #0070c0; mso-ansi-language: EN;">Lean In</span></i><span lang="EN" style="color: #0070c0; mso-ansi-language: EN;"> is a book for professional women to
help them achieve their career goals and for men who want to contribute to a
more equitable society. The book looks at the barriers preventing women from
taking leadership roles in the workplace, barriers such as discrimination,
blatant and subtle sexism and sexual harassment. She also examines societal
barriers such as the fact that women still work the double day and the
devaluing of work inside the home as opposed to work outside the home. Along
with the latter there are the barriers that women create for themselves through
internalizing systematic discrimination and societal gender roles. Sandberg
argues that in order for change to happen women need to break down these
societal and personal barriers by striving for and achieving leadership roles.
The ultimate goal is to encourage women to lean in to positions of leadership
because she asserts that by having more female voices in positions of power
there will be more equitable opportunities created for everyone.</span></div>
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Oh…… my first reaction is visceral, I tell you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I want to retch at how perfect she is!</div>
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Then I stopped and thought for a bit about her concepts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All good in theory… how can I put those into
practice? Her book is aimed at the professional woman who presumably is able to
choose how much, when and where to work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Hey, that’s me!</div>
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How much to work?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
hardly know anyone who works in a corporate setting in Singapore at an
executive / manager / C-suite level who works the “normal” 8 hour work
day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Far more than 8 hours is the
norm.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At peak period levels, I have put
in 14-16 hours of work per day… couldn’t sustain that level for anything more
than a week after I had Medium Boy and Small Boy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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When to work?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
company is very enlightened in that most managers allow their staff to work to
deliver tasks, not put in face time in the office from 9am to 6pm, spending the
last hour watching the clock… or social networking… or plain old coffee /
hallway networking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All my bosses in
this company have also pushed me to take time off (to make up for 14 hour work
days) during lull periods.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Travel is
done during normal office hours from Monday to Friday… I am not expected to be
on the plane during Saturday or Sunday.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>MOST companies in SG are not like this.</div>
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Where to work? For the past 5 years, I was in a virtual role
with a boss based in the UK.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I spent 75% of my week in the office after
Medium Boy’s birth and reduced that to 10% after Small Boy’s birth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yes, I could and did choose to work from
home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is only possible because the
people I collaborate with are not in SG anyway, and my work is not a high-touch
job (like a teacher or a doctor).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
changed department from 1 Mar 2013 and have to be in the office everyday
now.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The transition made me more
visible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am now back in circulation,
listening to the grapevine news, determining which way the wind is blowing. Leaning in MORE at work.</div>
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As long as women are still expected to work the double day….
Putting in time at home managing the house, being the primary decision maker
(and implementer) when it comes to educating the children… there is practically
zero time or brain space for a woman to lean in at work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When I look critically at my own home….The
Husband does his share.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is it a 50-50
share? Not when I sit down and tabulate what he does vs what I do at home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>[Note: yes, I do more than 50%]<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is he refusing to lean in at home, or am I
reluctant to lean out at home?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do not
know.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A mixture of both, I reckon.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hence am I bowing to societal and personal
barriers of what a woman should be?</div>
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Postscript: I finished this post in the middle of my night.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Just had to get this off my mind!</div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-75335388700450095722013-08-29T12:50:00.002+08:002013-08-29T12:50:56.120+08:00Opening the Closed Circles<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Now that I have 2 young ones to educate, I keep a close
watch on any shift in Singapore education policies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>PM Lee’s National Day Rally on 18 August
promised 40 places in EVERY primary school will be set aside for children
without any affiliation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To recap,
primary school registration is in 3 phases with the number of (fixed) places filled
first by Phase 1, then Phase 2, and finally Phase 3.</div>
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Phase 1 is for children who have a sibling currently studying
in the school of choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most parents
have no quibble with this phase.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After
all, it makes sense logistically for parents to ferry 2 or 3 children to one school rather than
run around Singapore to fetch them to different places.</div>
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Phase 2 is where the situation starts getting more
interesting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Phase 2A1is for children
whose parents are former students of the school, and the parent has joined the
alumni association, or the parent is a member of the school advisory
committee.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Phase 2A2 is for children
whose parents or sibling had studied in the school of choice, or whose parent
is a staff member of the school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
link back to one’s alma mater is supposed to build the alumni community (fuzzy
concept!).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A free pass for selected
people… if you the parent do not belong in this category by birth or career
choice, aha, there is Phase 2B where the angst starts….</div>
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Phase 2B is for children whose parent (1) volunteers who
have provided at least 40 hours of service to the school, or (2) is a member endorsed
by a clan/church directly connected with the primary school, or (3) is an
endorsed community leader.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(1)
advantages the stay at home parent with time to carry out the community service….
(2) brings up questions of race/ethnicity/heritage and religion into a secular,
supposedly race-blind process and (3)…. Well, anedocatal evidence points to category
(3) parents who volunteer with Singapore’s ruling party…. Only these people are
endorsed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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Then comes that distance factor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Phase 2C is for all Singaporean and PR children
who are not yet registered in a primary school, according to the Ministry of
Education website.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, schools
divide this phase into 2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>2C1 is for
children whose registered address is within a 1km radius of the school; 2C2 is
for children whose registered address is within a 2km radius of the school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After all distance makes sense correct?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Which parent wants a sleepy 7 year old to
have a 1 and a half hour commute to school?</div>
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Over time, applicants to the ‘good’ schools increasingly
become more homogeneous in their family profiles.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>More than the national average living in
private property (proxy for wealth), more than the national average with graduate
parents.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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Now, if you ask any parent, they will tell you they want the
best for their children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Best education,
which in the Singapore context, is narrowly defined as the best grades.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I <a href="http://hisabundantblessingss.blogspot.sg/2012/11/a-future-ready-child.html" target="_blank">disagree with this definition</a>, and hence I
am heartened by PM Lee’s policy tweak.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>My country, my society will be more cohesive because of equal access to
education opportunities. </div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-32537133856211916612013-08-28T17:42:00.000+08:002013-08-28T17:42:48.422+08:00Words to live by<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Once in a while, a piece of prose takes my breath away. The first was <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desiderata" target="_blank">Desiderata </a>(and what a story behind those words originally thought to be 1692 wisdom). Then a friend posted the Holstee Manifesto on her blog....<br />
<br />
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="color: blue;">This is your life. Do what you want and do it often. </span><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: blue;"><br />If you don't like something, change it. <br />If you don't like your job, quit.<br />If you don't have enough time, stop watching TV.<br />If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.<br />Stop over-analysing, life is simple.<br />All emotions are beautiful.<br />When you eat, appreciate every last bite.<br />Life is simple.<br />Open your heart, mind and arms to new things and people, we are united in our differences.<br />Ask the next person you see what their passion is and share your inspiring dream with them.<br />Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself.<br />Some opportunities only come once, seize them.<br />Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating.<br />Life is short, live your dream and wear your passion.</span></span></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<br /></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-weight: normal;">And prior to thousands of primary school pupils writing evocative compositions.... the opening sentence of "Jonathan Livingstone Seagull" moved me</span></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<br /></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: blue;">It was morning, and the new sun sparkled gold across the ripples of a gentle sea</span>.</span></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-weight: normal;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-weight: normal;">and this one.... so fierce that the words leap off the page into the throat to jolt one awake</span></div>
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<span style="font-weight: normal;"></span></div>
<div class="quoteText" style="text-align: left;">
<br /><b>Self-Pity</b><br />
<i>By D.H. Lawrence</i><br /><br />
<span style="color: blue;">I never saw a wild thing<br />
sorry for itself.<br />
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough<br />
without ever having felt sorry for itself.</span></div>
</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-74746311674998225312013-08-26T15:34:00.003+08:002013-08-26T15:34:46.782+08:00At breakfast<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I am normally the earliest to wake on weekdays, followed by the Husband. Then both of us will wake the boys up... Medium Boy drags his furry toy friends to the daybed and plops there for a while. Small Boy staggers like a drunk to the other daybed and lies horizontal until his milk is warmed up.<br />
<br />
The Husband tells me this story in the car after the boys alight at their school. I was probably in the shower at that time.<br />
<br />
(Silence at the breakfast table)<br />
<br />
Then Medium Boy pipes up..... "Everybody is sleepy right?"<br />
<br />
The Husband looks at him..... he continues "The table is so quiet!" then giggles at his own observation.<br />
<br />
Indeed, Medium Boy, indeed..... <br />
<br />
<br /></div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-73108987098216280802013-08-21T11:01:00.001+08:002013-08-21T11:01:17.486+08:00Songs in the car<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
- courtesy warning. this post contains references to bodily secretions.-<br />
<br />
Starting sometime in June, when we were on a long drive to Sengkang in the middle of the night, and the 2 boys were sitting at the back by themselves.<br />
<br />
Medium Boy started the fireworks song. Medium Boy and Small Boy made hexi-don-te shapes (helix with one bend) with the mesh window shades, and sang<br />
<br />
"We are making hexi-don-tes<br />
And FIREWORKS<br />
and we like this place<br />
and we like to sing"<br />
<br />
accompanied by tossing the mesh up in the air on the word fireworks. Small Boy giggled as he followed his brother's actions.<br />
<br />
This Monday, Medium Boy started the toilet humour song. "Papa," he started to tell the Husband..... "I am driving, talk to Mama" was the response... then "Mama..." to me.<br />
<br />
MB: listen Mama, I am having a tea party with poo-poo and pee-pee. *mimes drinking from a teacup*<br />
*giggles madly*<br />
<br />
Tuesday. The tea party expanded to include boo-boo (MB's term for boogers that come out of his nose) and pass gas.<br />
<br />
Having grown up in a mostly-female household, I am grossed out. The Husband thinks MB is just being a boy though.... The 5yo is getting cheekier!<br />
<br /></div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-7779584249813084042013-08-14T11:11:00.001+08:002013-08-14T11:11:14.202+08:00Reorganisation<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
The announcements of the reorganisation came out last evening.<br />
3 announcements from CEO downwards, then one functional announcement from the finance lead.<br />
<br />
Uncertain times are coming. Till the end of this year.<br />
<br />
Medium Boy and Small Boy, I write this down to let you know that I am also an employee and have my unique contribution to the world, other than being your mommy.<br />
<br />
And I want to tell you: Being your mommy is the most important job in the world to me. There are never enough hours in the day to be with you. When you grow older and read Virginia Woolf, I hope you give your wives space too to have a room of their own. It is very important for a woman to have a space where she is solely herself.</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-87226683168467784922013-08-08T16:05:00.001+08:002013-08-08T16:05:07.672+08:00Inspiring woman<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<br />
My GM is a 44 year old bundle of positive energy. Whenever she is faced with a difficult situation (and there are many through the course of a work day), she reacts to it with an attitude of "how can we collectively as a team, make lemonade out of lemons?". She uses her words to inspire... "how to square this off.... what can we do now.... let's look for ways to figure out how to (meet a business objective)". Excellent at managing her team, as well as communicating. In good news, she credits her team, and in so doing, credits herself. In bad news, she manages the message.<br />
<br />She is such a larger-than-life figure to me that I was surprised that she is such a petite lady.... I noticed her physical height with a jolt only when I walked next to her (and talked to her) on the way to a meeting on Tuesday, and hey, I had to look down to meet her eyes when speaking. Sitting across a table from her, or being in a townhall with her, one would never notice her smallness of frame.<br />
<br />
During lunch on Monday, we were talking about children. She is a mother who believes in keeping her 2 sons aged 16 and 10, close to her. In fact, she is in Kidzania, KL with both of them over this long weekend. Another colleague was sharing over lunch how her 10 year old nephew is acting up. My GM offered sage advice on how she would handle the situation.... Wow. <br />
<br />
And... she is beautiful with sharp cheekbones and clear glowing skin, and she dresses well too.<br />
<br />
Oh, I want to be my GM when I grow up! :) </div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-4046774711402185262013-08-04T18:27:00.002+08:002013-08-04T18:27:40.050+08:00Away from me <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It had to happen one day... Medium Boy is slowly asserting his independence away from me and away from the Husband.<br />
<br />
First it started with his insistence that he is big enough to take the lift to our 11th storey apartment by himself. "Can mama be with you?" I asked him. "No!" he replied, emphasising his point by giving me a slight shove. "Didi likes to use the other life, you go with him."<br />
I stood by the lift for the entire minute it took to ascend to the 11th storey, with my eyes glued on the screen. Must have breathed only when he exited the lift. <br />
Raced to the other lift with Small Boy, took it all the way up to the 14th storey (where the common corridor is), and tapped my foot impatiently as 'our' lift [I think of the lift outside my apartment as ours] descended from 14 to 11. Opened the main door striding the 3 steps from lift to door, and yes, there he was, my Medium Boy. All flush with the rush that came from taking the lift up by himself, and telling the Husband he is a BIIIIIIGGGG boy now.<br />
<br />
Then it happened again at the public toilets. He announced he needed to go to the toilet, I brought him there and just as we were about to turn to the ladies', he asked me plaintively "Mama, I am a boy, I should go to the boys' toilet, can I?" then adding "please please please" for good measure as I internally calculated the probability that something (lightning storm? sick perverts? foot jammed into toilet? eating his booger after peeing [and not wiping himself]?), anything would happen during the 5 minutes that he is in the toilet.<br />
I allowed him to go. Paced outside like a crazed woman. Resisted the urge to grab any passing male going into the toilet and ask him to check on my nearly-not-quite-5-year-old son as he did his business by himself. Those 3 minutes felt like 3 hours.<br />
<br />
He strolled nonchalently out of the men's toilet with a big grin.... the grin of a boy who has accomplished something, all by himself.<br />
<br />
His limbs are lanky now, and he is more agile. The baby fats have melted away as I forgot to watch him. He is growing up away from me. Fly, little one, fly away from me.... Remember to look back and wave at your mama, I pray as I silently let him go.</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-20843259964202400902013-07-26T14:46:00.000+08:002013-07-26T14:46:07.674+08:00Chope Food for the Needy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
What is Chope?<br />
According to the Singlish definition in talkingcock.com, http://www.talkingcock.com/html/lexec.php, it means <i>To reserve or hold something for somebody. Sometimes used in games to denote having attained a ‘safe' position.</i><br /><span style="font-size: small;">"If we're not at the theatre by 8, can you chope some seats for us?"</span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-size: small;">Then I read this which my sister posted.</span><br />
http://www.dailygood.org/story/439/miserable-and-magical-a-graduation-speech-for-paradoxical-times-nipun-mehta/ .... Hey, it made me tear up a little and as usual when I am moved, I write (or blog, in this instance).<br />
<br />
There has been a movement going around in Facebook to chope food for the needy, that is, pay the hawker upfront for your own food plus another portion. I have been chope-ing another bowl of noodles when I eat lunch at the hawker centre near my home... sometimes up to 3 bowls. One day Mr Lim the hawker had time to talk to me as I was early for lunch (went at 11am)... there are 4 other people who have been paying forward for food too. Mr Lim looks out for retirees above 70 years old, and tells them that their food has already been paid for.<br />
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Restores my faith in humanity, it does.<br />
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-47118724673393538322013-07-26T10:58:00.004+08:002013-07-26T10:58:44.685+08:00Birthdays!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">2 weeks has flashed by with 2 birthdays!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Husband’s birthday was on 19 Jul.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Celebrated with his parents during the day by
watching Pacific Rim in JB.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then out for
dinner with the boys + my parents + my aunt at Chui Huay Lim Teochew Cuisine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Celebrated again with a date on 22 Jul at Au
Petit Salut.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The service is impeccable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Medium Boy turned 5 on 24 Jul!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I had a private joke with myself that he is a
24/7 baby, and therefore did not sleep much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He celebrated with a Mickey Mouse chocolate birthday cake in
school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The Husband brought him to watch
Despicable Me 2 in the afternoon, headed to Jamie Oliver’s Italian at Vivocity
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-36816038506352539732013-07-16T17:26:00.002+08:002013-07-16T17:26:22.681+08:00Not a race<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-10250/11-things-i-wish-every-parent-knew.html<br />
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Point 3 speaks loudest to me today. That we grow in cycles.<br />
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Chilling that Medium Boy is not reading yet... he is blending 3 letter words together, sometimes even 4 letters. Think of the bamboo, Mama.... period of slow growth in the ground before growth spurts.</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-20826251428856297752013-07-12T18:20:00.001+08:002013-07-12T18:20:50.788+08:00One for me, one for him<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Medium Boy plonked himself down on my lap while I was reading the newspapers.<br />
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Patted my left boob. Told me that milk comes from there, and if I drink milk, well that is where it comes out from.<br />
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[I am slightly bemused, which seems to me a mixture of bewilderment and amusement.]<br />
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He patted my right boob. "You have 2, Mama" (gesturing around my chest area) he continued."One is for me, and one is for didi."<br />
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I have been divided and allocated out. Now I know what it feels like to be a piece of meat..... Grin.<br />
Very heartwarming that Medium Boy remembers latching though. He stopped latching on me at 14 months, approximately the time that Small Boy was conceived. The milk taste must have changed!</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-85434246105440083092013-07-12T18:05:00.004+08:002013-07-12T18:05:58.352+08:00Labels<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
The best advice I ever received as a 20something establishing a foothold in my career is from my 4th aunt. I had received a not-stellar performance appraisal in my first year... and was moping about it. 4th aunt told me that labels are like Post-Its, if you like them, keep them around longer to remind you... and if you do not like them, why, just throw them away!<br />
I learnt this lesson only as an adult. <br />
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I am thinking about this lesson in the context of the Singapore education system.<br />
9 year olds take a national exam to determine if they are "Gifted", and hence to be put into special classes where they spend LESS time on the curriculum (the assumption is that these very smart children already have it down pat) and more time exploring outside the curriculum.<br />
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"Gifted" and Not-"Gifted" is a label bestowed onto the child at NINE years old. Resources are then allocated disproportionately more to the Gifted. Teachers with advanced degrees and diplomas. Smaller class sizes. More spruced up school facilities.... <br />
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Nine years old. I only have 4 more years to protect Medium Boy's childhood. Sigh.<br />
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-44273727957222117362013-07-10T10:36:00.003+08:002013-07-10T12:40:58.685+08:00New Skills<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Work has consumed my life, so much that <span style="font-size: small;">80</span>% of my waking hours is spent on work. The only comfort is that a small portion of that 80% is still spent at home where I am physically with the boys.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">This week, Medium Boy has learnt how to blow up a balloon by himself, and blend sounds together to form words. I am extraordinarily proud of his phonetic ability… so proud that wow, when he eventually learns to read, I might throw a party! Heh.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Small Boy scores high on mimicry. He went to the bowling alley once in May, and since then, has been imitating the bowler’s posture when playing with his toy bowling set. Well, he thinks he is correctly imitating…. What he actually does is to raise his buttocks, then lift a leg up, and his head is down looking backwards at his other leg. Obviously he cannot see in front… so I tried to correct him, but he was adamant in telling me that he can do it himself, thank you very much. Yesterday, I caught him sneaking a peek in front before he let go of his toy bowling ball. Haha.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The mimicry goes so far as he instructing me to put my thumb, third and fourth finger properly into his toy bowling ball, the “correct” finger position, when I bowl with him. *grin </span></span></div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-34560193611156861832013-07-03T16:11:00.004+08:002013-07-03T16:11:38.880+08:00Pssst.... I cannot keep a secret yet....<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
At nearly 5, Medium Boy is absolutely full of surprises. He has no filters, no censorship, whatever he thinks... he says aloud. I love this age!<br />
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Act 1, Scene 1<br />
In the car. On the way to school this morning. Medium Boy announces he has a secret. On my probing regarding what it was, he said smugly, tis a secret Mama, I am not telling you, teeheehee.<br />
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Act 1, Scene 2<br />
The Husband and I chat about our upcoming day. We are not delibrately ignoring Medium Boy.<br />
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Act 2, Scene 1<br />
Medium Boy pipes up "When you go to sleep, I will tip toe quietly to the fridge, take away all the sweets and EAT all of them!"<br />
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Oh, his nefarious plan has been revealed! Grin.<br />
The Mama will take pre-emptive measures now to clear out the sweets. He has been coughing on and off at night for the past 3 weeks. </div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-15245796753603584152013-07-03T09:49:00.002+08:002013-07-03T09:49:23.591+08:00Energy is renewable, not Time<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I recently received a HBR article titled “Manage Your Energy, not your Time”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The authors opine that longer days at the office do not work because time is a limited resource, however personal energy is renewable. There are 4 dimensions of personal energy that the authors recommend we notice… physical, emotional , mental and spiritual.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The tips for rejuvenating physically are</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Enhance sleep by setting an earlier bedtime and reducing alcohol use…. I do not drink alcohol regularly so that’s a plus for me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Bedtimes are determined by the boys… I am thinking seriously about putting them in their own room now.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But but but some part of me wants them close!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I spend many hours away from them in the day, night time togetherness is to make up for it…</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Reduce stress by engaging in cardiovascular activity at least 3 times a week and strength training at least once…. THREE times a week!?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If running after the boys counts, then I have cardio everyday.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Haha.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not enough to get my heart rate up to 70% of maximum though.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Never mind strength training.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The heaviest things I haul around are my boys.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Oh and weekly grocery shopping.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I walk back from the supermarket.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Eat small meals and light snacks every 3 hours…. YES, a tick for me in this area.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Learn to notice signs of imminent energy flagging, including restlessness, yawning, hunger and difficulty concentrating…. Yep, I notice… Too often ignore these signs though.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Things are heating up at work with the business plan 2014 kicking off this week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I turn to brewing this yummy confinement tea.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I use a Thermos Shuttle Chef 1.5L to prepare and drink one cup in the morning, sipping throughout the day.</span></div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-71082409274517781042013-07-01T17:38:00.002+08:002013-07-01T17:38:55.006+08:00First day of school<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">We touched down from Malaysia on Sunday at 11am, rushed to unpack, put the boys down to nap at 230pm [they gave into fatigue only at 345pm], woke them up at 645pm for a family dinner…. And today is the first day of school after a month.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Husband walked them up to the school entrance at 7.53am.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Small Boy cries and clings to me when I send them up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is a far gentler start to the day when the Husband sends them up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Back to work after a week long holiday.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Taking a deep breath and plunging straight in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sure feels like the first day of school for me too.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">OH!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Today is the first day of the second half of the year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I haven’t even got my 2013 work deliverables agreed with my boss yet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-80558414970657413892013-06-26T23:21:00.002+08:002013-06-26T23:21:34.848+08:00Holidays bleah<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Mommies like routine. Ok this mommy likes Medium Boy and Small Boy to have a routine. I really believe that little ones behave better when they know what to expect next.<br />
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Holidays are a time of relaxing the routine, hence it wrecks havoc with my own routine.<br />
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The Husband on the other hand thinks nothing of disrupting the routine to go off on adventures..... Swimming. Beach combing. Watching a centipede make its way across the pavement. Aargh. Drives me crazy. <br />
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Things get even crazier when these adventurous activities eat into nap time. For then, I have 2 half-sleepy boys on my hands who are prone to sudden bursts of energy in between their general lethargy.<br />
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I have put my foot down and insist that their adventures tomorrow are confined to the morning. 3 days without naps is messing up my own routine! I miss the time to potter around the house, do my own things without having to act as a referee every 10 minutes, or thinking up activities to keep both Medium Boy and Small Boy occupied.<br />
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Having the other set of grandparents watching like hawks over our everyday activities (since when did my life become a soccer match for your commentary.....) is also not fun. <br />
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I miss Singapore, my own home, even though the weather is still hazy. <br />
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Reckon I am having an AARGH moment.<br />
Breathe Celine breathe.....</div>
Celinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11178179906491224139noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025220686517701452.post-48910863779979008082013-06-21T17:26:00.000+08:002013-06-21T17:26:09.011+08:00Glad to escape the haze<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The boys, the Husband and I are escaping from hazy Singapore tomorrow.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We had planned to visit the in laws in June, coinciding with the boys’ school holidays, not to run away from the haze.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I cannot wait to go.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can only hope and pray that the wind direction does not blow the smog [let’s call a spade a spade, shall we? Haze sounds too benign for the smoke that gets into the building even when the windows are close] into Kuching too.</span></div>
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