Medium Boy is at the age where he talks. A lot. He uses reason and logic to catch the times I am inconsistent. He is a good teacher to cultivate my integrity and patience.
I caved in on Sunday evening and bought him the stroller fan from NTUC supermarket because he was persistent. Times like this, I wish the Husband were around to buffer me. He is away on a weeklong business trip.
Medium Boy is seldom vulnerable now in the day. He can do things by himself thank you very much Mama. 2 incidents happened recently to remind me how young he still is …. I think of him mostly as a big boy now because he is big brother to Small Boy.
As I was putting him to bed Monday night, he asked me “Mama, pls will you sayang (love) me?” with a plaintive note in his voice. He had been quiet for ~5 minutes as I was tending to Small Boy before the plea for attention. I looked into his eyes, and remember when I first held him in my arms after birthing…. How I will love him all the way to the moon, and back. Then I gave him a long hug with our arms entwined around each other, kissed him on the forehead and made soothing noises.
This morning, Medium Boy was playing with his new NTUC-bought fan. It was the usual morning rush to get both boys ready. Out of the blue, he asked me “Mama, am I a winner or loser?” I replied “You are a winner, of course. See you are dressed and didi is not….” He turned back to the fan and said…. “But Mama, A (his classmate) said I am a loser during the concert” [Medium Boy’s N2 class performed for the school K2 graduation concert last Saturday]
I stopped what I was doing, walked to him, hugged him, then told him “Medium Boy, you will always be Mama’s winner. You are good at many things, and you are a loving brother. Ignore A. Tell me if he says anything that makes you sad or angry inside again.”
A had called Medium Boy a name before. Medium Boy is the sort to brood, and think quiet thoughts by himself. I am now debating if (and how) I should bring this incident up to his school teachers…. What do I expect them to do anyway? Nothing, is my honest answer. I just need advice on how they will handle such a situation if it were their own child, and also their professional insight on how to manage such quarrels between 2 children. After all, Medium Boy and Small Boy are likely to trade heated words sometime when they are growing up.
I caved in on Sunday evening and bought him the stroller fan from NTUC supermarket because he was persistent. Times like this, I wish the Husband were around to buffer me. He is away on a weeklong business trip.
Medium Boy is seldom vulnerable now in the day. He can do things by himself thank you very much Mama. 2 incidents happened recently to remind me how young he still is …. I think of him mostly as a big boy now because he is big brother to Small Boy.
As I was putting him to bed Monday night, he asked me “Mama, pls will you sayang (love) me?” with a plaintive note in his voice. He had been quiet for ~5 minutes as I was tending to Small Boy before the plea for attention. I looked into his eyes, and remember when I first held him in my arms after birthing…. How I will love him all the way to the moon, and back. Then I gave him a long hug with our arms entwined around each other, kissed him on the forehead and made soothing noises.
This morning, Medium Boy was playing with his new NTUC-bought fan. It was the usual morning rush to get both boys ready. Out of the blue, he asked me “Mama, am I a winner or loser?” I replied “You are a winner, of course. See you are dressed and didi is not….” He turned back to the fan and said…. “But Mama, A (his classmate) said I am a loser during the concert” [Medium Boy’s N2 class performed for the school K2 graduation concert last Saturday]
I stopped what I was doing, walked to him, hugged him, then told him “Medium Boy, you will always be Mama’s winner. You are good at many things, and you are a loving brother. Ignore A. Tell me if he says anything that makes you sad or angry inside again.”
A had called Medium Boy a name before. Medium Boy is the sort to brood, and think quiet thoughts by himself. I am now debating if (and how) I should bring this incident up to his school teachers…. What do I expect them to do anyway? Nothing, is my honest answer. I just need advice on how they will handle such a situation if it were their own child, and also their professional insight on how to manage such quarrels between 2 children. After all, Medium Boy and Small Boy are likely to trade heated words sometime when they are growing up.
Ohhhhh... so touching!!
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