I had spent the last couple of months being annoyed with my MIL, without really realizing why.
The Husband and I were out at Starbucks sipping a green tea frappacino over lunch on Tuesday when he commented that the frap is too sweet, and added as an afterthought “I must have told you before… my mom says that ever since we married, my taste buds have changed…. I find her food too salty now.”
*AHA light bulb moment *
I replied to the Husband, “You are a silly man. Next time, just eat whatever she cooks and keep quiet.”
And continued “When you are with your mother, you must make her feel as if she is the most important woman in your life….” To which he smiled and nodded.
Then added my twist “When you are with your wife, you must also make her feel as if she is the most important woman in your life….” He looked at me incredulously.
“If your mom and I do not get along, it is your fault, my dear!”
Reflection: I have 2 boys, I will be a MIL one day. If my dear son ever makes me feel like I am #2 woman in his life, my first reaction will be to give hell to his gf or wife. Then I hope and pray I remember this post to remind myself to act from a higher plane of consciousness.